How Sisterhood Changes in Motherhood (and Why That’s Okay)

I’ve been thinking a lot about sisterhood lately. Probably because motherhood has shifted how and where it shows up in my life.

There was a time when sisterhood looked like constant proximity. Texting all day. Seeing each other often. Being deeply involved in each other’s everyday lives. Now, it looks quieter. More spaced out. Less performative. And if I’m honest, I grieved that for a while.

I wondered if I was doing something wrong. If I wasn’t showing up enough. If distance meant disconnection. But I’m realizing that sisterhood doesn’t disappear just because life changes. It just adapts.

These days, sisterhood looks like checking in without needing a long conversation. Sending a voice note instead of making plans we both know we’ll reschedule. Understanding silence without taking it personally. It looks like women who don’t need access to me at all times to still feel close to me.

I’m learning that sisterhood isn’t about frequency. It’s about safety. It’s about knowing you can pick up where you left off without explanations or apologies. And honestly, that kind of sisterhood feels even more intimate than what I used to know.